Core Coaching

Posted on January 9, 2011 - by Joanne Del Core

Let it rip!

Change

images-1Do you ever feel guilty for saying things that are uncalled for when you’re upset or angry? Ever feel like your upset shouldn’t have a voice or wouldn’t serve you or the situation you’re in? As a matter of fact, I’ve come to see just how crucial and important it is to get everything out on the table: the words, the feelings, the hurt, the “opinions” that matter to me and the yuckiness that comes from feeling betrayed, offended and misguided. I’ve learned that blowing off steam is more than ok. It actually feels pretty darn good.

In fact, I went through my book collection today and picked up “The Language of Letting go” by Melody Beattie (my essential personal guide-book, coach, truth-teller and equalizer). I use this book when I’m searching for my own resolve about a situation I find myself in and I randomly choose a passage to read. 100% of the time, it’s spot on with the lesson that I’m learning in the moment and brings awareness to the external influences that I’m unable to see that are driving the bus. It always illustrates the resolution that is needed in order to move forward. Here is today’s pick I thought I would share with you. Beautifully poignant and liberating. Enjoy!

Getting it all out

Get it out. Go ahead. Get it all out. Once we begin recovery, we may feel like it’s not okay to gripe and complain. We may tell ourselves that if we were really working a good program, we wouldn’t need to complain.

What does that mean? We won’t have feelings? We won’t feel overwhelmed? We won’t need to blow off steam or work through some not-so-pleasant, not-so-perfect, and not-so-pretty parts of life?

We can let ourselves get our feelings out, take risks, and be vulnerable with others. We don’t have to be all put together, all the time. That sounds more like codependency than recovery.

Getting it all out doesn’t mean we need to be victims. It doesn’t mean we need to revel in our misery, finding status in our martyrdom. It doesn’t mean we won’t go on to set boundaries. It doesn’t mean we won’t take care of ourselves.

Sometimes, getting it all out is an essential part of taking care of ourselves. We reach a point of surrender so we can move forward. Self-disclosure does not mean only quietly reporting our feelings. It means we occasionally take the risk to share our feelings. It means we occasionally take the risk to share our human side – the side with fears, sadness, hurt, rage, unreasonable anger, weariness, or lack of faith.

We can let our humanity show. In the process, we give others permission to be human too. “Together” people have their not-so-together moments. Sometimes, falling apart – getting it all out – is how we get put back together.

Today, I will let it all out if I need a release.

Posted on January 8, 2011 - by Joanne Del Core

Blessed Partnership

Change Creativity Spirituality

Relationships are to be consoled as it is to console myself

A beautiful pure soul moves with the flow of his bodyimages

In the direction of the tide of his love

The love that soothes, feeds, nurtures and pardons.

His love comes from the ultimate force

And it’s symbiotic with the needs, desires and deepest yearnings of my spirit.

He is the ultimate partner

The one that holds a shield of protection even in the darkest of moments

He doesn’t play Russian Roulette with my heart

But rather plucks the delicate strings that make up the sweet tune of my essence, my purpose…my momentary existence.

He makes partnership easy, respectful, delicate and in tune with all that is real, meaningful and intangible.

My head knows it’s not about me

My heart knows it’s hurt

My body knows it’s tired

And my spirit celebrates my learning.

It has passed. I have overcome my demons.

Posted on December 12, 2010 - by Joanne Del Core

Life Cycle

Creativity

Duality is bitter sweet

I flow into you

You flow into me

Where am I when I flow into you?

Many times I don’t know

Is that ok with you?

Does that mean I’m lost?

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My body knows I’m moving

My emotions know I’m swarming

My spirit knows I’m earthly

My heart knows I’m learning.

If you ever tell me the old me is gone, I will cling onto life and revive it

If you tell me the new me is emerging, I will cling onto the edginess that protects where I’ve come from

This is not about burning the old me away.

It’s about the all encompassing me that is.

And that is ENOUGH.

Never will I bury her nor will I demonize her.

She is my light and forever will be.

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His love comes from the ultimate force
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Relationships are to be consoled as it is to console myself
A beautiful pure soul moves with the flow of his body
In the direction of the tide of his love
The love that soothes, feeds, nurtures and pardons.
His love comes from the ultimate force
And it’s symbiotic with the needs, desires and deepest yearnings of my spirit.
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Duality is bitter sweet
I flow into you
You flow into me
Where am I when I flow into you?
Many times I don’t know
Is that ok with you?
Does that mean I’m lost?

My body knows I’m moving
My emotions know I’m swarming
My spirit knows I’m earthly
My heart knows I’m learning.
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Relationships are to be consoled as it is to console myself
A beautiful pure soul moves with the flow of his body
In the direction of the tide of his love
The love that soothes, feeds, nurtures and pardons.
His love comes from the ultimate force
And it’s symbiotic with the needs, desires and deepest yearnings of my spirit.
He is [...]

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