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Posted on November 25, 2009 - by Joanne Del Core
What needs to be said? My two cents
I need to say a lot of things tonight but I’m not quite sure how to say them or what words to use. Does that ever happen to you? When you come across something so magical, so big and so grand, that words really are not enough? It’s clear that tonight, something bigger than me, is at work and I’m struggling to find the right way to describe it. All I know is that something needs to be expressed.
So here’s my attempt. My life is more than about coaching. My life is made up of chance encounters, daring experiences, and twists and turns that lead me into new encounters and even bigger experiences. When I combine them all, they make up my purpose. I am a connector – a connector of things, of people, of events and of moments. As I take a step back and view my life at 360 degrees, I realize that all of the circumstances in my life that I have felt victim to, have arisen for one simple reason: to mirror and reflect the greatness that lies within me, which is my birthright. Many times it’s been easy to fall into the old patterns, the self limiting beliefs and into the constructs of the ego and what I realize tonight, is that those things aren’t so bad. I embrace them all because they’re bringing me closer to my truth, closer to who I really am and closer to the person I need to be, for me, for my clients and for the world.
I fall into patterns because I become unconscious to a value that’s important to me. I remember a self-limiting belief because I silently hold onto a fear that runs my life. I revert to my ego because I’ve made a choice to be what society needs me to be. This is part of being human. And I’ve made peace with that. And as soon as I become neutral to it all and refrain from judging it, something begins to shift. New learning opens up for me. What I’ve learned is that everything and everyone are needed in my life. From a relationship that ends badly to a career that falls apart or a really bad decision that has made me go into a completely different direction – it all serves a purpose: to heighten my awareness and to bring me back to my truth. It may not feel very good and in fact it may feel really lonely, ugly and tumultuous but there is always help along the way. It appears in different ways through people that present themselves in my life, to chance encounters or fortuitous coincidences that I bump into along the way.
So what I have to say tonight is: dare to be YOU. In fact, I challenge you to be everything you have decided to hide, to bury and to conceal. Stalk your awesomeness for the sake of the rest of the world around us. We need your gifts in their purest forms.
Have a listen. Link: The Greatest Contribution
Posted on October 31, 2009 - by Joanne Del Core
Where have you been?
Heart of hearts
Wounds of wounds
Hallow are the hollow
Fullness are the empty
Mindlessness are the mindfulness
How can I open up to the wounds of the past if I can’t feel them?
Numbness is the ambivalence of the mind
You are playing strip poker with your spirit who always wins
The void is the hallow fullness
Trust is the hallow emptiness
Die and give up your addictions to give birth to your richness.
Posted on October 31, 2009 - by Joanne Del Core
Free love
Love comes and finds me
Embraced by endless streams of attunement
You need not rise up to the truth
It’s in attendance and in grand abundance.
Couples reunite, families amalgamate,
Singles thrust themselves into the light of love
Whosoever asks for it, there it shall be found.
No hidden catch, no strings attached. Just free love.
Posted on September 14, 2009 - by Joanne Del Core
Pressing the help button
Last week, I was asked to focus on my top 4 values and indicate on a scale of 1 to 10, how much I’m honoring them in my life: 1 = not at all, 10 = yes, and then some! The next step? Indicate one action that would move it towards a 10 or beyond what is imaginable.
I know that my inner compass is guided by these 4 values: truth, freedom, spirituality and independence and as I reflected on them, I thought about what to do to increase their presence in my life. The funny thing is, when I got to my value of independence (the one I deem to be off the charts and beyond a 10), I froze. But why? My brain has always been my biggest alley when it comes to my fierce sense of independence and in this instance, it was still patting me on the back and telling me that I was doing everything I could to amplify it in my life: I deliberately create a life that works for me and that is aligned with my truth (check), I allow myself the time to be introspective and listen to my internal dialogue (check), I take responsibility for my actions and words (check), and I guide myself according to my values (check check check). Independence means relying on me, myself and I and my brain was in agreement with it. Right? Or maybe not so right?
That night, while fast asleep, I was awoken by a faint whisper in my ear: “Joanne, independence relies on others.” What? My body shook from the jolt and I sat up straighter than an ironing board. Then came another wordy wind. “True independence, Joanne, requires you to depend on others. A truly independent person asks for help when they need it.” I chewed on this some more, even more intrigued by this second part of the message. I needed to ask for help? Hmmm. What circumstance in my life needed attention? What was the lesson here for me?
I must be brutally honest. Asking for help is not my forte. I’ve always been very careful about potentially burdening others with the challenges/circumstances of my life. Plus, how much asking is considered too much or needy, or too much reliance on others and not enough on myself? When is the line of being responsibe for myself drawn?
Coincidentally, this lesson was put to the test for me this week and I was faced with some intense life circumstances that required help from others. Yes, I recognized that I couldn’t be everything to myself in that moment. I needed others to support me, to help me grapple with my fears and to love me through all the fog and uncertainty of life.
Here’s what I learned. The simple act of asking for help requires nothing more than independence. When I allow myself to lean on others, I’m acknowledging what I need and who and where to go for the answers. That’s independence – knowing what you need and knowing how to get your needs fulfilled. Even President Obama carried the same message this week in his address to students. He said: “Don’t be afraid to ask questions. Don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it. I do that every day. Asking for help isn’t a sign of weakness, it’s a sign of strength. It shows you have the courage to admit when you don’t know something, and to learn something new. So find an adult you trust – a parent, grandparent or teacher; a coach or counselor – and ask them to help you stay on track to meet your goals …”
We are much more powerful when we band together and act as a whole rather than a single unit. Like the saying goes, two heads are always better than one. But on a deeper level, when people come together, there’s opportunity for creation, possibility and change in the world.
I challenge you to take a good look at your relationship with asking for help. Press that help button and see what’s possible for you.
Posted on August 29, 2009 - by Joanne Del Core
Are you being true?
The truth of a person’s life is the way in which that person drops the lie imposed by others on them. (Reread this sentence twice before continuing ahead). When we are stripped, naked, natural, we are what we are. The truth of our life lies (no pun intended) in a matter of being and not of becoming (by others). I love this message today because it’s something I’ve been desperately trying to articulate all week. I have felt burdened this week and I have asked myself this question as a result: am I being true in this situation? When I carry should’s and shouldn’ts imposed on me by others, with the proverbial “go faster, try harder, reach the top” tyrannical voice attached to it, what is the lesson here for me? What’s the lie that I’ve imposed on myself this week? The lie is that I am broken, unmanageable, complicated, tough, unreasonable and need to follow someone else’s rules – that’s the lie. The truth is that I am whole, clear in my intentions, relentless in my pursuit for excellence from others and myself AND all encompassing love – that’s the truth.
The lie can never become the truth. Black can never become white. Trees can never become clouds just as the personality can never become your soul. I can never be like you and you can never be like me. The lie is nonessential and the truth is essential. There is no way to make the nonessential essential. You can’t swap one for the other and the striving towards truth creates nothing but confusion. When we strive for the truth, that in itself is a distraction. It’s the lie’s way of hiding. The truth needs not to be achieved. In fact, it cannot be achieved because it is already there, in its purest form. Only the lie has to be dropped. All ideals, aims, judgments, ideologies, religions and systems of improvement are lies. I’ve recognized the fact that when I allow myself to be manipulated and cultivated by others, I am a lie. A walking lie. And when I look deep into the lie of my personality I see the lie and to see it is to cease it. The moment the lie disappears, the truth is there in all its beauty and radiance. The seeing of the lie, completely dismantles it and what’s left to shine, is the truth.
If life feels like a struggle to you these days, it could be time to shrug your shoulders and see what it feels like to walk without the should’s and shouldn’ts on your back. You have your own mountains to conquer, your own dreams to fulfill, but you will never have the energy to pursue them until you release yourself from all the expectations you’ve gathered from others that you now think are your own. Chances are they exist only in your own mind, and that doesn’t mean they can’t weigh you down. It’s time to lighten up, and send them on their way.
Posted on August 15, 2009 - by Joanne Del Core
Food for thought…or thoughts for food
When times are good and when times are 
challenging, there’s always a need for a comforting word to ignite our spirit. I wanted to share with you the phrases I was struck by when I listened to the Dalai Lama speak in October of 2007. Here are a few gems and golden nuggets I jotted down in my notebook as I heard him speak. I wonder which ones will resonate with you?
• A mother’s affection is paramount to healthy growth.
• A healthy community must come from the individual.
• Warm heartedness is the factor for a healthy individual and community.
• Constant fear is almost like suicide.
• Whether you love them (others) or not, your existence depends on them.
• We have to stop with demarcation and shortsightedness when we use the words “we” and “they” – we should instead say, “our planet, our home, our brothers and sisters”.
• The destruction of your neighbor is the destruction of ourselves.
• The concept of war is out dated.
• World peace must come from inner peace.
• Genuine peace must come from inner peace.
• Peaceful resolution comes from dialogue – we need to make an effort to promote the concept of dialogue.
• Weapons are useless – we spend billions of dollars to never use them.
• Problems will always be there even when we have peace. As long as fear and distrust are there it will be hard to find peace.
• Compassion is not a sense of pitiness (or a sense of superiority), it comes from a biological factor (affection and compassion are very important for the social animal). Compassion can be limited and biased when it’s mixed with attachment. Biased compassion doesn’t reach your enemy or extend to strangers – it’s limited. Compassion has a seed by nature.
• Compassion combined with (unbiased) intelligence is the real form of compassion and we need to promote it.
• Secularism is a form of religious rejection – we need to work on respect for all religions and have equal respect for those who have different views and for those who are non-believers.
• More education brings warm heartedness. Education and inner peace equal open mindedness.
• Think more!
• Materialism cannot bring peace of mind or fulfillment.
• There are always causes of conditions – always question them. Depression comes from a cause – do your research!
• “Happiness” is common sense – no explanation is needed.
Posted on August 15, 2009 - by Joanne Del Core
Healing
Starry nights bring galactic consciousness
Constellations are always made up of a network of stars
Our healing powers act as a constellation of energy embracing the whole, the individual, the one.
You have power to lift the forces, to synchronize healing, to expedite growth
Co-existence creates possibility within the no-thingness
Cycles die when our eyes are pierced with the truth
Please show me what you see for it is my only way of seeing my truth.
Posted on August 15, 2009 - by Joanne Del Core
Patterns
Patterns repeat themselves
This world repeats itself
That world replenishes itself
Weave your way into the pattern
Behave in the spaces,
Attune yourself into the particles
Castigate nothing
Formulate inconsequential ideas
Communicate an ethereal earthliness
Dedicate an undeniable truth to yourself and others
Reprieve: ask yourself nothing
Posted on July 26, 2009 - by Joanne Del Core
Words to live by
An excerpt that even after many re-reads, continues to evoke thought and reflection.
“Stay brutally optimistic. See the opportunity in every difficulty and anticipate the most favorable outcome out of every situation. Whatever you look for, that’s what you’ll find. We can get better or we can get bitter; it all depends on the lessons we draw from each experience. Optimism is like electricity – very little happens without it. Know this truth: you have all the resources you’ll ever need to handle all the challenges you’ll ever have. It’s in the true emergencies that the true you emerges. Resolve to identify the most powerful benefit you offer to the people around you and then deliver it. “The purpose of life,” said George Bernard Shaw, “is a life of purpose.” What’s yours? Where are you investing your personal energy: self-preservation or adding values to others? Here’s the well-being paradox: if you’re only concerned about yourself, you cannot take care of yourself. Only by helping others can you succeed.”
Posted on July 23, 2009 - by Joanne Del Core
Filling The Spaces…
There’s a place that I call the in-between stage that I’m fully aware of today. It’s a place where you sit in momentary silence while you’re waiting for something to happen, (which can occur a hundred, maybe even a hundred million times a day). It’s that really tiny space in time when you’re waiting for the subway to arrive as you stand patiently on the platform and hear it barreling down the tunnel, or when you’re waiting to receive your change from the cashier at the grocery store and she hands you back your receipt in hand. Or perhaps when you’re in the waiting line, queued up for the ATM machine during rush hour traffic.
